Sunday, August 22, 2010
She Does Him Good...
...and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12
Thinking a bit about husbands this week, this verse kept coming to mind. As wives, we have tremendous influence over our husbands. Influence as to how they think and process information, influence as to how they view the home, as well as influence by enhancing or tarnishing his reputation by our actions. And this influence can either be for good or for evil. It's really that simple.
Let me explain.
Thinking and processing information: we all know that when and how we share information can make all the difference in the world with our husbands. When he walks in the door after a long day at work is probably not the time to go into a lengthy discussion about your latest conversation with your mother or the problems with the computer printer. I know from personal experience that some down time is beneficial if I want to bend his ear. So I have a choice - I can set him off and wreck the evening, or I can be patient and find the right time to down load. Good or evil - it's my choice.
View the home - my mom always told me, I can make my house my husband's castle, where he feels safe, loved and in control, or I can make it a battle field, where he dreads coming to. If I choose the latter, eventually he'll find somewhere other than home to fill his needs and then we're really in trouble. Good or evil - it's my choice.
Enhancing or tarnishing his reputation - Because we are one, if I am a gossip, it reflects on him. If I am lazy, it reflects on him. If I am late, messy, rude, impatient, disorganized, hypocritical, or even stand-off-ish, it reflects on him. Does he want to be the husband of that lazy woman? Good or evil - again, it's my choice.
Ladies, we have the ability to do our husbands good or evil every single day, with our words, with our actions, with our lives. A great exercise to get things headed the right way, is to assess yourself every night when you go to bed. Just ask a simple question: Did I do him good or evil today? Be honest and after a week, see where you stand. Then purposefully make choices to do him good and not evil - make an effort to be that excellent wife God calls you to be.